Why is it that we are always so eager, so willing, so overly insane to prove that we are going to go above and beyond what need be done, will perform any task, strain for any measure of execution, to complete a task, to reach a goal, after the moment of time which we had been alotted to demonstrate completion of said goals has expired? why are we always late. We procrastinate to the point of disorder. Like there is something completely screwed up with our mental functionality that brings us to believe that the phrase "do before.." equates to "wait until you can't possibly complete by..."
We do this all the time. At work, in school, in life, in love. Especially in love.
I know what you are thinking. You know where I am going with this and you already know. Well sit down. Shut the hell up and keep reading. You know damn well that the person I describe is you in like a day, a week, a month, maybe even right now.
Unless, that is, you happen to be one of the tortured souls that are already in a loving, caring, time, energy and emotion-committed relationship. Then you are the one in the worst shape.
(I'm crazy. I don't know what I am talking about. ) You are all thinking it.
But seriously, why do we try to hook up all our single friends when we are in a relationship. Because we want them to have the joy of what we have? Bullshit. We are not that nice. We don't give a damn about them. We are selfish people.
We do it because if everyone around us is coupling, or hooking up, or dating, or seeing someone, or getting married or having kids or buying houses or buying timeshares, or spending weekends in the cape with the in-laws, or just fornicating our brains out with as many corporeal beings as possible, then it will be so much easier to convince our significant others that our dreams to do exactly this is the ideal thing to do. Its not for others happiness, it is to perpetuate that our desires are cool, reinforced by the masses.
But I am digressing way too much.
(for the record I am writing this blog for the 4th time and I have got to this point and lost everything due to computer failure)
When we like someone we never just tell them so. (I do. I'm an ass). When we realize that we like someone why can we never simply say
Bobby: You know Suzy, after talking to you last night at the party I found you interesting and I realized that I would like to get to know on a more personal level.
At which point Suzy could reply
Suzy: I think you are swell too Bobby. (Favorable)
or
Suzy: Beat it cocksucker, I need a real man. (unfavorable)
Either way you have lost nothing and gained information. (your pride was lost? You ain't got no pride Bobby if you spent the whole night talking to her and had to read my blog to convince you to speak up about your feelings. That spark is like instantaneous)
Instead we pine and procrastinate and sit in the shadows or take a seat in the "friend zone" for an eternity. And don't give me that bullshit about not wanting to ruin a friendship. Because what you have is not a friendship. from the moment one of you feels that spark and starts wanting the other one in a carnal way, friends time is over. From that moment on whenever someone asks you how you feel about that person and you say that you are "just friends". You are perpetuating a lie. L-I-E. And no matter whether you meant to or not. The rest of what you are calling a friendship is using that lie as a foundation. And anything built on a foundation of lies shall crumble. So I don't care if that person is with someone: your brother, your sister, your cousin, your best friend, your sworn enemy, your shrink, your teacher. (kidding on those last two), you need to get the balls (or whatever girls have that make them brave) up to tell them ASAP. That sitting back in the shadows waiting to leap is not cool. Because before you know it, Mr. Just About Right is gonna come along and piss all in your kool-aid and you will become either a miserable headcase, or a clingy, jealous, stalker headcase. Not good in any event.
Take my advice or don't who cares, but this is just my opinion.
and remember, don't wait til tomorrow bitches, today is a good day to do anything.
(Opinions are like assholes??)
I am the latter so I can develop the former.
Peace
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