I recently started this blog and decided that I was going to exhibit an effort to keep it up as an outlet for my thoughts. I had been contemplating what my next topic will be and i got a hail storm of material this weekend. Of all the things I had to decide from I decided to write about family.
I got a call from a friend (when you read this you know it is you Chrissiey. lol) who tells me that I have a facebook message from someone I don't know and that they are related to me. Long story short it is my mother's sister that i never knew about. I guess she was put up for adoption as a baby and even though I don't know why we never knew about her, finding out about her has already been an experience and it has only been about 48 hours. I have been in touch with her and a few members of my mother's side of the family that I never knew existed. One of them has even been working on a family tree that is impresively extensive. She has traced our family back to royal Irish lineage. Not that I am the type to get all hyped up about something like coming from royal lineage but i thought it was an interesting piece of my heritage. I look forward to getting to know them all and learning more in the months and years to come. They have all been extremely nice to me and are welcoming me as one of them so warmly.
This experience has brought me to consider how people today interact with their family, those whom they share blood ties with and those with whom they have no blood ties. I consider myself blessed that my siblings and I all share a great bond and we have such a unique relationship where we all get along. Yes, we have our disagreements and there are things that we do that get on one another's nerves but aside from that we are a huge support system for one another. In the absence of our parents, we have become closer which is only a testament to the love we received.
There are others who do not have such a great relationship with their siblings and those who do not value their family. I know many people who would bend over backward for someone they just met but would shun their family. I don't understand this. 'Can't we all get along?' should start at home. I know that as kids we fight with our siblings over trivial matters and get on one anothers nerves but we are only human. These are part of the growing pains that we experience in life. However, some people do not value the gifts that God (or whoever you choose to believe in) has granted unto us. I have seen people lie to their parents about important things. I have seen people steal from their grandparents. I know people who have tried to fool around with their siblings wives, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends. Are our values so messed up and so twisted that we can't allow our family to have happiness without being the reason for its failure? What is it in human beings that we don't all value family. I know some people are the good in this relationship and some are the bad. But even the ones who are victimized begin to exhibit nasty behavior. As a people it is probably better if we try to curb this. We cannot allow others to turn us wicked and we should damn well not be wicked for our own personal gains.Yet and still some of us are. I think this is a flaw in us that is promoted by greed and jealousy and perpetrated on television.
Sit and ask yourselves: Have I ever tried to flirt with my brother's girlfriend, or my cousins boyfriend? Have I ever been intentionally rude to my mother's new husband? Have I ever back stabbed my sister for my own gains? Have I ever blown off my mother in her time of need to hang out with friends and do nothing really?
Have I ever done anything along these lines? How would I feel if someone did this to me? Do my actions hurt those I love or those who love me? Do I want to be known as the person who does these things? What can I do to change?
Regardless of how you answer these questions how you feel when inside when you consider these questions within yourself is a direct reflection of who you are. If some of these answers make you sad, that says something about you as a person. If you get enraged or defensive, it says something about you as a person. If you are happy and content, it says something about you as a person.
You may ask yourself "who does this guy think he is calling me to account with these questions?" so I will answer them for you.
I have never flirted with a family members significant other, my families happiness is at times more important to me than my own. I have been intentionally rude to my stepfather. As a teenager I didn't know better and defiance was my weakness. But I have learned from that lesson. I have never blown off my mother in her time of need to do nothing. I would bend over backward for my mother because I loved her more than anyone on this planet. If i was given the choice this moment I would trade my life for hers and allow her to meet her sister that she never knew, and the nieces and nephews that have been born since she has passed. Yes people have done this to me, and it hurt, and I felt betrayed. I can't recall the last time I committed an act that could in any way harm those that I love. I strive everyday to not do so. I do not want to be known as someone who does things to hurt family, and I do not believe that I am.
What I do believe is that the sooner we all learn to be good to our own, the easier it will be for us to be good to our world. It will be then that harmony will exist and peace can be a global possibility and not a pipe dream.
Superman Out.
I got a call from a friend (when you read this you know it is you Chrissiey. lol) who tells me that I have a facebook message from someone I don't know and that they are related to me. Long story short it is my mother's sister that i never knew about. I guess she was put up for adoption as a baby and even though I don't know why we never knew about her, finding out about her has already been an experience and it has only been about 48 hours. I have been in touch with her and a few members of my mother's side of the family that I never knew existed. One of them has even been working on a family tree that is impresively extensive. She has traced our family back to royal Irish lineage. Not that I am the type to get all hyped up about something like coming from royal lineage but i thought it was an interesting piece of my heritage. I look forward to getting to know them all and learning more in the months and years to come. They have all been extremely nice to me and are welcoming me as one of them so warmly.
This experience has brought me to consider how people today interact with their family, those whom they share blood ties with and those with whom they have no blood ties. I consider myself blessed that my siblings and I all share a great bond and we have such a unique relationship where we all get along. Yes, we have our disagreements and there are things that we do that get on one another's nerves but aside from that we are a huge support system for one another. In the absence of our parents, we have become closer which is only a testament to the love we received.
There are others who do not have such a great relationship with their siblings and those who do not value their family. I know many people who would bend over backward for someone they just met but would shun their family. I don't understand this. 'Can't we all get along?' should start at home. I know that as kids we fight with our siblings over trivial matters and get on one anothers nerves but we are only human. These are part of the growing pains that we experience in life. However, some people do not value the gifts that God (or whoever you choose to believe in) has granted unto us. I have seen people lie to their parents about important things. I have seen people steal from their grandparents. I know people who have tried to fool around with their siblings wives, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends. Are our values so messed up and so twisted that we can't allow our family to have happiness without being the reason for its failure? What is it in human beings that we don't all value family. I know some people are the good in this relationship and some are the bad. But even the ones who are victimized begin to exhibit nasty behavior. As a people it is probably better if we try to curb this. We cannot allow others to turn us wicked and we should damn well not be wicked for our own personal gains.Yet and still some of us are. I think this is a flaw in us that is promoted by greed and jealousy and perpetrated on television.
Sit and ask yourselves: Have I ever tried to flirt with my brother's girlfriend, or my cousins boyfriend? Have I ever been intentionally rude to my mother's new husband? Have I ever back stabbed my sister for my own gains? Have I ever blown off my mother in her time of need to hang out with friends and do nothing really?
Have I ever done anything along these lines? How would I feel if someone did this to me? Do my actions hurt those I love or those who love me? Do I want to be known as the person who does these things? What can I do to change?
Regardless of how you answer these questions how you feel when inside when you consider these questions within yourself is a direct reflection of who you are. If some of these answers make you sad, that says something about you as a person. If you get enraged or defensive, it says something about you as a person. If you are happy and content, it says something about you as a person.
You may ask yourself "who does this guy think he is calling me to account with these questions?" so I will answer them for you.
I have never flirted with a family members significant other, my families happiness is at times more important to me than my own. I have been intentionally rude to my stepfather. As a teenager I didn't know better and defiance was my weakness. But I have learned from that lesson. I have never blown off my mother in her time of need to do nothing. I would bend over backward for my mother because I loved her more than anyone on this planet. If i was given the choice this moment I would trade my life for hers and allow her to meet her sister that she never knew, and the nieces and nephews that have been born since she has passed. Yes people have done this to me, and it hurt, and I felt betrayed. I can't recall the last time I committed an act that could in any way harm those that I love. I strive everyday to not do so. I do not want to be known as someone who does things to hurt family, and I do not believe that I am.
What I do believe is that the sooner we all learn to be good to our own, the easier it will be for us to be good to our world. It will be then that harmony will exist and peace can be a global possibility and not a pipe dream.
Superman Out.
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